sallyn

sweetface, thanks for your thoughts. i'm sorry to hear that you've been dealing with this too...it's really kind of an pleasant one to struggle with. this guy i referred to ran off after that last date that i referred to in the previous post. guess he really wasn't a keeper after all or just wasn't that into me. oh well, lol. glad more time wasn't didn't go into that.

i've just started seeing another guy and i think i'm leaving it at what i've already shared with him, which is that i have an endocrine disorder and just explain in a sentence or two what the endocrine system does in general and mention a couple of other endocrine disorders just to give sort of an idea that it's a long term thing. in a context of joking i mentioned that what i have is the leading cause of infertility among women. then when he asked more follow up to that i explained that it could go either way and there isn't a way to tell if i can have kids until the time comes for that, lol. as far as talking about it more specifically so that my symptoms don't interfere, i think i'm just going to say things like i'm symptomatic today or that my condition is bothering me today or something vague to allude to pcos without talking about the wonderful goatee and backhair that i'm sporting. so much for sharing info with others to help increase awareness and educate other people about the disorder. i don't know, it really adds to the run of the mill insecurities when dating. while i'm theoretically a thin cyster, i carry my weight in my midsection, so i am uncomfortable about getting physically closer to someone because of that. so i also just mentioned that my condition caused me to put on some weight. he seems to be into my body for the most so i'm more comfortable with him about that one. i worry that i will instinctively flinch or get tense or something and the guy will take that the wrong way, but being a little bit more comfortable about it might hopefully make that less of a possibility.

i am starting to think it's one of those things where there isn't a good answer...or maybe it's one of those where the answer is the wonderful "it depends." depends on us cysters comfort level, the guy, the context of how you feel about each other, trust level, communication...i don't know, lol. i just didn't want to be judged for things i can't control because someone doesn't know and understand the nature of this condition. it's not a good feeling. and it sounds like you were/are struggling with the same sort of thing about this issue. *sigh*

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