This is the first time I've ready thru this whole post. We are looong winded aren't we?
Neech - I want to explain something about women judging you on this board. I know you come to vent and we actually do want to hear what you are going thru. Men are a mystery to alot of women, but each woman here has PCOS. Each woman here deals with the insecurity it brings and we have our fears regarding our significant others. To hear a man rant about leaving, cheating, saying we are cursed and all that will bring up our fears in a huge way and then we will try and vent back to 'clue you in to our reality' which you can easily read over and over in all the other 99 threads we have all to ourselves. But our biggest hurdle is self esteme and insecurity, especially if someone has left us over this issue. You can bet women will vent and you will see our frusterations.
Ranting is good to get things off your chest and I really do believe a good rant is like running 5 miles, but if it triggers someones insecurity you could get a ranting back. I guess if you say:
*men only* *Men only* * men only*
It wil show us that you do not want a womans input ever on your thread. You can define that boundary.
The hard thing for women is that it's difficult to see a man judge us and then we so badly want to explain our reality so you understand. As long as you judge us in any way shape or form, you will set off a counter-rant if you discuss the things that would devistate a woman; leaving, abandonment, judging us as cursed and so on. I think ranting is ok and you can prevent a counter-rant if you say you are not open to anyones opinion of your rant.
Also, try and understand ranting is fine as long as it doesn't get abusive because we aren't coming here to sling ****, we are here to understand things better.
But I do wish you would come back and let us know what is happening. |