I completely agree with you on that one MOTB. There has to be respect.
I started posting here about 2 years ago when a nurse in my wife's Doctor's office told me about this site and that it had a forum for men. She said it could be a good place to go to vent, rant, "talk" to other men about what I was going through.
I came here looking for support but when I started talking about my wife's non-existent libido and its connection to my wife's PCOS, people started attacking me, both men and women. It got to the point where I stoped posting for 4 months just because I couldn't believe that some people would be so mean. One person even suggested that I leave my wife and get a divorce.
I came here looking for a way to cope with the lack of intimacy in my marriage that has been largely due to my wife's illness. Don't get me wrong. Not once did I ever not accept some of the blame. I was looking for advice from men who were successfully coping but never got any.
We men are the forgoten. We suffer too. Not in the same ways as are partners do but we still suffer.
Over the last 2 years I've run the full gammet of emotions. Denial, anger, sadness, and now I'm into acceptance. I can certainly accept that my wife has this disorder but I don't have to take it lying down.
I'm glad to say that finally, after all this time my wife has finally seen the light. She finally sees how much refusing any treatment is hurting me, our daughter, and her. She's started to use herbal remedies and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted.
The peaceful warrior is finally finding peace. |