LAST,
Since everyone's story is different, I'm really not certain what to tell you. All I can tell you is what I would like to see in my own situation. I hope this helps.
1. Mood swings. Well...what can I say about mood swings? I can only say that in my experience, they are really hard to "hide" and often times, my daughter and I are the targets eventhough I realize that that its not intentional. For me, in these cases, a simple "I'm sorry" would do.
2. No libido. This too is difficult. This is what truly hurts me the most. Being rejected 9 times out of 10 and just seeing her lay there during the 1 time it does happen has made me frustrated beyond belief. Being pushed away from any sort of intimacy outside the bedroom (Hugging, kissing, cuddling) also hurts. I cry a lot and I find myself wishing that I had the strength to just end it and leave but I don't. I need my wife. I need her desperately but the loneliness I feel has me feeling a kind of despair I never thought I would ever feel.
I'm at the point right now that a simple touch, her soft hands carressing my back after a hard day at work, would make me feel human again.
My advice to you or to any cyster who suffers from low libido and have a DH or BF is to never withold touch, sexual or not. While we are not willing to admit it, we need this from our partners. I would feel so much better about what is not happening in our bed if my partner were to only touch me more. I tend to her needs all the time but once in a while we need to be nurtured too.
One other thing...don't ever forget to tell him just how much you love him and don't be afraid to show it. |