Sweetface,
I may have misread LAST's post but I thought that she had asked 2 seperate questions. She said "I don't want him to have to keep putting up with it and not getting any." So I assumed she was asking about 2 issues.
You're right. When my wife blasts me for no reason touch and sex are the last things on my mind. Before my wife's diagnosis and certainly for at lest the first year after the diagnosis, I had difficulty reacting appropriately to the mood swings. Granted, there were many times, I'll admit, that I deserved getting yelled at. For those other occasions though, it took me a long time to make the mental connection betwen the outburst and my wife's condition. Education and learning to live with PCOS (hey, us guys suffer from PCOS too) has been a big help for me in this area. With my wife in denial, I had to educate myself about this disorder. So, helping him understand what PCOS is and what it is doing to you will help, I think.
Like I said in my response to LAST and I certainly can't speak for all men but in my case a sincere "I'm sorry" would be a huge help. I have yet to hear my wife apologize for any undeserved outburst. She's an extremely strong, proud and stubborn woman who has a hard time admitting when she's wrong. I'm sure that one day she'll get around to it and when she does, I'll feel a lot better.
I guess that's why I love her so much. I see so much tragedy in my line of work that sometimes I need a stong shoulder to lean on. Just this past weekend, I was sent out to a "big box" hardware store to investgate a fatal incident involving a 16 year-old boy and a forklift. It's times like these that I just couldn't do it without her.
She is my rock. I guess that's why seeing her suffer and experience all of the emotions that she's had to deal with is so hard to take. |