AnotherDreamer

I'm sorry you're in such a situation. Donor situations are always full of iffy areas, areas left to each individual couples beliefs.

With donor sperm/egg I think it's important to remember the difference between a parent and a biological donor. While they do provide the genes, it is you and your partner that supply them with the love and support, the life lessons they will need, and a safe home. They will have siblings out there, and maybe one day they will meet, but remember that those siblings also have their own family units as well. They have their own mother/father/brother/sister to grow close to. Your child will have it's own siblings, it's own family. And as I said, one day they may come together and meet with each other, but that is something that may have to be left to them. It's such an iffy territory.

I'm glad you and your DH have agreed on a path you both feel is right. And I hope you talk more of this later, and figure out how best to approach it with your children. (*hugs*) It's just such uncharted territory; it's still relatively new. Best of luck on your journey. I hope you get your little miracle and everything falls into place.

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