well I have never posted on this forum but here it goes...
I think that sexuality and love are two different things. Personally I have been with my husband, he is devoted, wonderful, trustworthy, into me. I always know where he is, etc, and he is bi. I knew it when I married him. I don't necessarily believe that he just grew out of it or whatever euphamism you would use.
We have been married 6 wonderful years and together 7 and he hasn't been with a man in over 9 years. He even states that he has no sexual attraction to men anymore although he might comment that one is cute. I knew him that way and loved him regardless because of the man he is.
We don't let a lot of people know of his past, he prefers it that way and Lord knows that the pentacostal parents of mine don't need to know. His mother and family is aware..they've known him longer but they can vouch that when he loves a person, its one at a time and I guess he is just loving me longer. He has always dated both but more women than men.
I have gotten flack, sure, over the years that I must not be that secure in my own self to take on this kind of love, but its quite the opposite. I am a strong, powerful, professional, loving woman who could do fine by myself but I am better with him. I didn't find out on Jerry Springer
I went into it with full knowledge but deeply in love, that is secure to say the least.
Here it is 7 years later and still happy as ever. There was a time he would claim bisexuality and have no issue with it but now he would tell you he has no desire. His choice; I do think that bisexuality exists; nor do I think they are confused or "sorta gay". We heard that as well from his friends that are bi or gay, but who have now shown us nothing but love and are amazed at our relationship.
p.s. I am not bi..I am a flaming heterosexual but on the other hand, I think women are beautiful, even erotically so. Nor have we ever had a threesome (although in my past I have, just not with girls) Sometimes I even get mad when a lesbian doesn't come on to me when I am at a gay bar watching a show.
