Hey Sky Hunter,
I had a semi-arranged marriage in 2006. I had no idea at that time that I had PCOS. I've always had irregular periods...got them every 5 months or so, my doctor (before marriage) perscribed birth control pills to regulate but did not mention that I had PCOS and that I would have such difficulty conceiving. It was a year after marriage that I found out. You would think that my mother-in-law, who is a typical Indian mother-in-law, would be understanding. She was not. When she found out that I have always had irregular periods, she blamed my parents for not telling them before marriage...her exact words were "your parents did not do a good thing. They should have told us." My husband knew...I told him before marriage and he is so supportive and loving!! He's the BEST! Then my mother-in-law went on to say "that is if they had known they would have thought more about getting their son married to be. But what can she do? what ever is written in our kismet will happen. God knows best and she has ACCEPTED IT." If you tell them, chances are that they will say no to the marriage alliance, if you do not tell them and they find out after marriage you will have tons of stress. The most important thing is that you tell the man you are going to marry before marriage. If he supports you and knows that you may face difficulty then you will be ok. Also remember, and this is how I keep my hopes up, that women with PCOS can have babies its just harder. I will be starting fertility treatments soon.
It is extremely hard for Indian woman like you and me. You just have to have faith.
Hope this helps....
Tasha |