PCOS Message Board - View Single Post

retzhappymom · 08-24-2008, 03:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by toomuch4acyster

Melissa,

Thank you so much for your prayers. The stories I am hearing are giving me hope. And just so you know, the bible verse you have given me in written on a sticky note and stuck to my fridge,and trust me I go there often. Thank you so much for the reminder, He has a plan for me. I see you are adopting, congratulations. God bless you for taking in a child who maybe otherwise would have never had a chance. Please let me know how the process goes, the adoption process that is. I was thinking of adopting anyway, even if I do concieve.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that God does have a plan for you. Even though it may not be as quick as you want it - that HIS timing is the only timing that matters. I have the Bible verse framed that my hubby bought me. It hangs in my living room, and when I need a reminder, I just read it.

We are adopting through DSS in SC. We started thinking about the process while we were having trouble getting pregnant with our son. We started looking into overseas, but it was too expensive. We also looked at private adoption, but we aren't really wanting an open adoption and we don't want the parents to know who we are, where we live, etc. So we prayed and started the DSS process. I then got pregnant with our first baby, so we put the process on hold (we really haven't gotten that far). So when our son got older, we started looking into it again. And then our daughter came along. When she got 2 or 3, we started with DSS again. We had to start everything over again because it had been so long. But like I said, we hadn't gone too far into the process before. We had to do 14 hours training, DHEC inspections, fire inspections, home inspections and all that other fun stuff. We finally got approved in March of this year. So we are now PATIENTLY waiting for a child. I still have to remember that verse now, because I'm not great at being patient. Our 7 year old son is wanting a brother NOW. His sister isn't into playing Star Wars with him or wresting. So our son figures that if we adopt a son, he'll want to play all that stuff. I try to call our social worker about once a month to check in with her. But we are still waiting for the call to tell us that we have been chosen. At that point, we go to Greenville and get to read the child's history. This is EVERYTHING that DSS has on the child. Then we are encouraged to bring the file home and read it again, think about it and PRAY about it. Then we make the decision if we think the child is one we'd like to adopt. So we are anxiously, but patiently waiting on that call. I'm like you too, we've always talked about adoption, even with having our own child. There are just so many children that need a home. Let me know if/when you start the adoption process. Some of the forms you have to fill out can be a little overwhelming, as far as what you are willing to accept in a child. Like we want to keep the birth order the same as far as our son the oldest, our daughter the middle child and the adoption child younger than our daughter. We also aren't willing to take a child who has a violent tendency. We have our two children to think about and we also live about 5 minutes from my sister, who has 3 girls under the age of 8. So we have to have a child that is okay with other children in the family. So there's just a lot to think about. Keep me updated though!