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Originally Posted by novachick  You tell me when you figure it out! I'm 27, and just wandered in to post something along the same lines. I've always tended more to the guy side of things, but my early crushes were always girls. It's been a looong time since I was with a girl (22? 23?), and we're only talking making out, never sex. I've ID'd as bi since I was a teen, as I've always known that I'm at *least* attracted to women AND men. It's not that big of a deal for me, as one of my aunts is a lesbian, so it was a non-issue in my family.
I've been single for a few years while I got set up in a new town. I saw an old flame this weekend (a guy) and while it was nice to get some action, it was less than nothing to me. I get excited about the possibility of a hook-up, but the minute we start anything, I'm thinking, "Oh well, I wonder how much longer I have to put up with this until I can go to sleep?". I have a good time, but I'm just not into it at all. Which reminded me that that's how it ALWAYS is with guys. I've never found a girl I liked enough (or they were already dating someone, etc), to go very far with so I just don't have any ways of comparing my experiences!
My question to you, and the rest of the ladies is this: For those of you who were with guys before you came out/solidified your feelings/etc, is this how you felt? I read coming out stories for girls that always seem to say, "Oh, I never got off with a guy, it grossed me out, etc", and neither of those things is true. It's more like I immediately realize I'm totally uninterested. |
I had a very similar experience. For me, it wasn't that I knew I was gay every since I was little. I may have been a little bit of a tomboy, but I still liked girly things, especially when I was a pre-teen/early teenage years. You really can't stereotype these things, ya know? I dated guys until I was 19 years old (almost 24 now), and I was even "boy crazy" during my early teenage years. I know this is TMI, but when I first had sex with a guy, all I could think was - that's it? This is what everyone's talking about? Stupidly enough, of course I felt like I had to do it to keep a boyfriend and well, that's what couples did, right? It just never did anything for me, I just felt like it was something I would "let" a guy do, but I got nothing out of it.
Then eventually, I got involved with girls and haven't really looked back since, lol. It was just a TOTALLY different experience - it was like the missing puzzle piece. Now I finally understood what everyone was talking about with sex, but I only felt that with the same sex, not guys. Also, it's not just physical, but the emotional connection was always greater with girls...I fell in love easily, where as with guys, I don't know what it was. It might have been love, but after being in relationships with girls and looking back, it didn't compare to that love. So I don't know.... just my $.02.
