Ah, the question that causes much debate in the adoption world.
Each family has their own feelings about this. We chose to change our Liberian son's name and keep his birth name as his middle name. Now I am the only person who calls him by his former first name and it is a special occasional thing between us. We will do the same with our Ugandan kids. For us it is a way of claiming them and making them ours while still respecting the names that the birth family bestowed.
We have close friends who chose not to change their kids' names and gave them meaningful middle names. That works too.
Some kids really want to have new names when they come home, others don't. I say it depends on their age. Escpecially if they are older, I would get their input.
Whatever feels right for your family and the child is the right thing to do.
__________________ Keltie (30) & Blake (33) Married 6/16/01 DD Kenya (11/30/04)
DS Duncan (8/11/05 Liberia, West Africa) DS #2 Isaiah (8/11/04 Coming home from Uganda in early 2009)
DD #2 Maleah (2/12/08 Coming home from Uganda in early 2009) 1 Angel Baby October 2007 - I'll Love You Forever
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