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Originally Posted by laurenena  I am so sorry that you're having to deal with this! Dealing with parents and sexuality is a whole different issue, and so complicated. It's amazing how progressive our country can be, but when it comes to "the gays" we are just shoved in the closet. If I were you, I wouldn't present PCOS to my mother as only being caused by too much testosterone. I have recently seen studies though that have found that lesbians are at a MUCH higher risk of having PCOS. They did a study and 80% of the PCOS women were gay, 20% straight. Pretty crazy, huh? I take this as a step forward for us, as it shows a chemical correlation....basically screwing their born gay/chose to be gay attitude! The other thing I was going to say is that with my PCOS I only have a slightly elevated level of testosterone. What makes our ovaries screwy is the pitutary gland secreting different levels of LH and FSH (an endocrine issue), in conjunction with the pancreas sometimes doing whacky things with insulin levels. So, I wouldn't necessarily go into a PCOS conversation with your mom just on the testosterone level fact alone. It's the big picture....
Best of luck in telling your mom. Fortunately, for me my mom had come to terms (in her own way) of my sexuality well before the PCOS diagnosis. She has been very supportive, and in fact it has really opened the door for us to talk about the fact that I will have children one day. Before she wouldn't really be open to talking about it. So maybe this will actually be a positive thing for you??? |
I have told my mom about other factors, and when I brought up the fact that when I go to the gyno I am going to make him (yeah, not sure how I feel about a male gyno lol) test me for everythign that coud possibly be wrong, including cancer, just to be safe. I have some oft eh symptoms so it can't hurt. She asked me what would happen if I had ovarian or (i dont know the technical word for it) cancer in the uterus. I said "Well they may have to take out my ovaries or my uterus. It all just depends." then of course she freak out again, saying that they can't do that. That I am too young to have something liek that because I need to have kids....then it ties back into the whole lesbian thing again. I am pretty butch, to say the least, and I do not plan on getting pregnant myself. I mentioned to her that I always wanted to adopt, and then she freaked out again. It' like I can't win no matter what. lol at this point, after the initial reaction, I am just letting it go now. She will react how she is going to react, and I think that if she looked up some more information (and I know her well enough to know that she will) she will see that it is not the cause of homosexuality, and if, in the very rare case that I would have cnacer, I think she would not be quite so worried about her future grandchildren as she would be her child.