Here are the steps I was advised to take by several people with foster care. I wish I had at least considered listening to them.
1. Turn around
2. Run as fast as you can in the other direction
Our hearts were ripped out, and 6 months later I have still not recovered emotionally, and I doubt I ever will. We were intentionally taken advantage of by the state and we were also intentionally lied to by them. They knew two entire months before our baby girl was born that she would be placed with siblings in another state, and until two weeks before we could file to legally adopt her they didn't say a word. After I talked to the other family and questioned them the workers admitted knowing what was going on, "but they didn't feel we needed to know".
I now have this huge hole in my heart, and anger that fills my entire body because of what the state put us through. After our experience I have had three other teachers at my school alone that have had horrible experiences with foster care as well. My state has dug the hole so deep with foster parents that they are in crisis. Now if you go through them and do foster care you have to pay $3000 to sign with another agency, and they have to approve the agency.
Basically they are trapping people by making them pay a fee to stop doing foster care, and making it harder to adopt through an agency when you get tired of their crap. Some people have had good experiences with FC, but majority have not. |