Policewife

So the latest news is he's now in congestive heart failure.... He has exploritory surgery just a camera down his throat to his heart to see if they can even do any surgery on him tomorrow.. All his organs continue to fail and he had to have another blood transfusion today.. second one...they dont' know where the blood is going to but he's loosing blood. The nurse said she was washing him yesterday and his liver is so gone that he's seeping blood through his skin.... Its just hard.. My sister and I have discussed stopping treatment. I'm more apt to do it only because my issue is IF and thats a big if he pulls through, what is his quality of life afterwards... How long are we talking? A year, 6 months etc.. Are we talking constant hospice care? If thats the fact then I dont' think he'd want that at all. On top of that, we do all this and he's in a coma and might not wake up anyways. Plus he'd have to be on dyalisis for the rest of his life PLUS he needs a liver transplant.. His liver has no function. IMO whats the point?.Is that harsh or realistic? I feel like in a time like this emotion has to be put aside and a realistic true view of someones potential life had to be thought hard about.

Its just a confusing situation and never thought we'd have to choose whether someone lives or dies.. I esp didn't want this for them because they're so young. I dunno.. lots to think about..lots and lots these next couple days.


Bree I am so sorry about your mother.... its so terrible. I can honestly say I know how u must have felt.. Although have to make that decision about your own mother is a whole new level.. its terrible.. I hate reality.