thank you all. It was very tramatic for me.. His passing was not easy. The doctor expected him to live no more than a couple mins and certainly not more than hour.. He lasted almost 30 hours off life support.
We specifically asked he be coma induced, they did not do that, he actually woke up, was looking around and aswering questions via blinking his eyes.. They had him on so much morphine they said they don't know how he's awake and how its pretty much not killing him. He even tried to move around in the bed and get out. My sister was tramatized and freaked out, becasue it was like watching the living dead literally. We demanded they put him to sleep and finally they did..
His breathing was terrible and congested and he was gasping a lot. His body was filling with fluid and his lung could not expell the fluid so he would cough and the fluid would get stuck in his throat and he would choke and gasp and shake and ugh it was bad. I believe they call it the death rattle..
Then he started to stop breathing for seconds at a time, then only breathing a couple mins at a time.. He was sweating terribly from having to work so hard to breath and eventually he would not breath for over 30 seconds then take 1 or two shallow breaths.. The doctor told us he can survive like that for up to 10 days without food or water. After talking with the doc we made the choice to all run home and shower and come back as it did not seem he was exactly leaving that min... 15 mins after everyone left he passed with the nurse in the room on Saturday... It was terrible and I hope I never have to watch someone die that kind of terrible suffering death again.
Im so sorry for you loss Margy.. I can truly say I know what it feels like and its a terrible feeling.. I hope for peace for you and your brother |