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kimmy-ki · 12-13-2008, 03:11 AM

Hi Susan,
Thanks so much for your input. Of course, I was kind of imagining that the age difference between sibling would be greater--but now that you mention it, absolutely anything is possible, especially here in Mexico where lots of people have one after the other with practically no break in between! Having two children under 2 at the same time would be an amazing challenge... How wonderful that your adopted children are like twins!

I had not thought of the bonding issues--of them bonding more with each other than with us! Of course, that makes a lot of sense and is something to keep in mind. I think it would be understandable given the circumstances in which they would come to us, most likely having been legally removed from their parents. (Here in Mexico, this requires extreme circumstances because there is not a foster care system.)

The agency was mentioning how sometimes siblings have to be separated because it so difficult here to find families to adopt more than one, and especially children who are older than 3. So the older children really get the worst of it because they suffer not only the abuse, but then separation from their more adoptable younger siblings and of course, most often institutionalization. Obviously, the ideal is to find homes for sibling groups but the reality here is very complicated as adoption is not very well accepted in Mexican culture in general. (Most sibling groups get adopted by Americans or Europeans.)

Thanks so much for your input! If anyone else has any other insights, I would love to hear them.