Samantha... I'm sorry you are going through this. There could be many reasons why you have not been picked yet. DH and I live in Canada where things could be a bit different. When we did our home study, we had to fill out paper upon paper of qualifications we wanted in a child. They asked question upon question and some overlapped eachother so you had to be careful in what you chose. What ethnic background would you accept. Would u accept a child with FAS, would you accept a child whose, mom drank? or her family had a history of drinking?? how about the birth father? what if he drank?? how about his family?? Frick the list went on. The birth parent also gets to choose who they want to be their baby's parents so if you r not what they r looking for, then you have no hope. many reasons could be why they didn't pick you. We sat and sat for 5 yrs b4 we got a call that we were finally chosen to be adoptive parents. Nov. 22nd 06 somewhere in there.. We drove down to meet the mom, and she even wanted me in the birthing room. Our adoptive DD was born on Nov. 29th 06. The law states you have a 30 waiting period that the mom has to change her mind. Our waiting period didn't start until a month after Emma was born. this was due to the mom not knowing the birth father so we had to wait for the Social Service lawyers to go to court and get the Judge to sign over paternity of the baby. So our waiting period started on Dec. 29th. We brought the baby home on Jan. 2nd (she had been in a foster home up until this point) and on jan. 15th 07 the birth mom changed her mind. I have not seen her since. I mourned for her for about 6 months, then I just woke up!!! I got my life in order and got pregnant on my own in April of this yr. My due date is Jan. 15th. 2 yrs to the day we lost Emma.
Things happen for a reason (it took me a long time to understand this) so please, hang in there, you could find yourself in my shoes and get pregnant on your own. DH and I have been trying for 12 yrs to start a family and with dedication and commitment, I got pregnant on met alone. I am a big cyster but I lost 55lbs in 4 months and got my period back... Had an HSG done b/c I wasn't getting pregnant and within 2 weeks of having the procedure done, i was pregnant
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EDD: Jan. 15th 2009
2yrs to the day we lost our adoptive DD back to her birth mom
Bridjette Kathleen is HERE!!!
born Jan. 19th/09 10:18pm
9lbs 12.5oz 21.5inches long
via C-Section
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