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MailLady · 12-16-2008, 09:51 PM

Kimmy, I wish u ALL the best of luck in your adoption journey. I wish the process was 48 hours for the mom to change her mind here too. We would still have Emma. I always thought that we were brought to Emma to help her. Her mom just needed time... That's how I truly felt after I thought about it when she was taken. NOW, when I think about it 2 yrs later, Emma was brought to help us out. I am truly thankful for her. I remember the day so well. Social Services called at 4:10 and I didn't even say hello, I just said, "she changed her mind, didn't she" all the worker could do was say yes. They had to travel 40 mins to get to us, so they were at the house in an hour, and within 30-45 mins she was gone. The day started out so well, thru the night was when I noticed her 1st real smile...I'm so glad I got to experience that... My only advice to people who r in the adoption process, go in with an open, but closed heart. Do NOT get your hopes up until your time limit for the BM to change her mind has come and gone. I always knew she was going to change her mind, I just didn't prepare myself for it. After we lost her, I just couldn't get back into the whole adoption process. I couldn't handle another let down, so when I got my BFP, I took our names off of the waiting list. I didn't want to have our name in there taking space up while there r so many families out there that want a child. The Social worker wasn't too too happy that we took our names out, but we figured, hey, we can get pregnant. Sure we could have lost the baby, but we always knew, it could happen again. best decision I ever made was taking our names out. Now I am about to have a baby in 29 DAYS!!! a bit freaked but so ready to start a new journey...