Maillady-- Just a phone call and good-bye forever... unbelievable. That's really amazing that you were able to look at your failed adoption journey as a way of helping Emma by giving her mother the time she needed. That is a very big-hearted way to look at an extremely painful situation. I think itīs difficult to know how much time is fair for the baby, for the BM and for the adoptive parents. So much heartbreak potential all the way around, isnīt there? I just donīt know what the right answer is... but I have to say the 48-hour limit here definitely favors the adoptive parents over the BM. I donīt know if that is bad or good--these situations are so complicated in every way.
Keep me posted on the birth of your little girl! Hooray! Your journey is such a miracle... I am really thrilled for you after all you and DH went through.
We are looking seriously into adopting siblings-- so a 95% chance that we will be dealing with children who have been abused or abandoned. In our case, we wonīt have to worry about the parents coming back or something like that, but rather, probably for the safety and mental well-being of the children and all the challenges that come with not having had favorable conditions to start with. Those kids whose mothers should have given them up for adoption from the beginning but didnīt! Anyway, Iīll keep you posted as well. Itīs so cool to find out about other peopleīs journeyīs to motherhood... infertility definitely makes the journey more interesting to be sure!
