My suggestion is THINK LONG and HARD before you get married. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life without children? Do you think he will eventually warm up to the idea of adoption and if not you have to be prepared. I understand what you are going through I lost an ovary when I was 18, and have probably one of the worst cases of pcos. My DH was against adoption from the beginning I told him I wanted kids and if he did not like it well we could go our own ways (we were NOT married at this point) so he changed his attitude about adoption LOVES our little boy, but says he does not want anymore children
I'm not sure I'm willing to accept DS growing up alone, when I think about it DH and I are on too different stages of life. He's older than me by quit a few years and I'm only 29 and feel maybe we met for a reason but will not spend our lives together. Please just think about what you feel is more important to you, just like my brother said to me about this yesterday this is a MAJOR decision not just something that will be a small arguement and it's over. My brother told me either I want to stay with my husband and NOT have any more kids or DH and I have to seriously consider going our own ways
It's a hard choice I love DH but I just can't see myself saying I'm done adopting.