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O.k. let me put my 2 cents in here as well. Before dh and I got married, on our 1st date I told him that I would probably never be able to concieve and that adoption was a possibility. FF to when we got married. Dh didn't want to start ttc until about a year after we were married. Which was fine for me. Well, we officially started (I guess) ttc a year and half after we were married. When to the gyn had the talk the whole 9 yards. Started on just progesterone for periods instead of the bc to regulate them. Nothing ever happened with the progesterone ( there was about a 7 mos lapse in seeng the gyn again...very stressful time). Anyhow, we then went to see the fertility specialist and dh saw everything I was going to have to go through before we could even start doing procedures and he said he didn't want me to have to go through that. (He always thought that we were going to have no problem getting preggers...wrong...) Anyhow, after that it was crunch time for me. Dh wanted to wait as long as possible. He was on board for adoption but it took a long time to get comfy with that idea. Now that we have adopted, dh is in love with ds and couldn't imagine him not being here.

I am going to say this, have another discussion with your df. Talk to him. Lay it all out on the line and tell him either adoption is a REAL possibility or you have to go with your heart and leave him.

Also, pray about it. This could just be one of the things that is the deal breaker.

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