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MailLady · 12-30-2008, 08:24 PM

Mr. NorthSouth... I started reading through your thread and thought I would just pop my two cents in. I commend you for wanting to help your wife. It shows that you are in it for the long haul...congrats on your son. (forgive me in advance, this is going to be long)

For me living with PCOS is sad...I get in the "why me" moment and get depressed then I slap myself and come back to reality.... I was diagnosed 8-10 yrs ago. I met my DH 15 yrs ago and we started to talk about children early on, but I was REALLY ready 12 yrs ago....I took clomid as many times as I could with no luck. I went back and forth to MANY specialists and Dr.s and they all said the same thing... LOSE WEIGHT. If I had $1 everytime I heard that, DH and I would be rich...I am a stubborn woman and NO ONE was going to tell me what to do...so what did I do...yup, ate...yrs later, I came to the realization that I wasn't going to be a mom, if it was in my playing cards then it would happen, if not, i accepted the reality of this disease. Weeks after being diagnosed with PCOS, DH and I put our name in for adoption, we figured we better get our names in now, b/c it might never happen for us to have children and atleast we would have a chance through adoption.... Well 2 yrs ago, we got a phone call form the adoption agency saying that we were picked to be parents... I couldn't believe it....we were REALLY thrilled...I was in the room while she was born. Nov. 29th 06 actually... 7 weeks later we got a phone call saying the mom had changed her mind and we lost our DD on Jan. 15th 07. That was the hardest thing I have EVER went through, I was depressed for months....Then one day I just snapped out of it...I had made up my mind that if I was to ever have a child, that I had to do it myself, and I couldn't count on ANYONE to give me their baby. In Jun 07, I started back on metformin... I darn near quit b/c the s/e were so bad... I ended up cutting one pill into 4ths and upped my dosage that way. I got up to 2000mg and saw changes almost immediately.. I never did stop eating carbs I just cut most of them out. I drank only water and milk.... and I never ate past 5:30 pm... I wanted a baby badly and I was determined to do ANYTHING to get pregnant...I dropped 55lbs in 5 months, and started to ovulate...I FINALLY got pregnant on my own after an HSG to clear my tubes and I am due in 2 weeks. (2 yrs to the day we lost our adoptive DD)

You need to someone how get your wife on this board...It is so inspiring, sure there are hard times, but EVERYONE supports EVERYONE here. If you could get her on to even just spill her mind, I am positive people will flock to her and help her out in ways that you can't. Ladies in here are in her shoes and she is not alone.

As for the met, If you can, get her on it..start slowly and work her way up to 2000mg IF her body can handle the s/e. Sure the s/e's r horrible, but in my eyes, so well worth it. Start walking, from the sounds of it, you live in a beautiful area... if she can only walk a block, hey, that's great!! it's a BLOCK!! one more than she walked yesterday... (that is how I was when I started) I'm a big girl...332lbs b4 I lost the weight so walking was very difficult for me... my DH even would walk with me some days, he would rather bike but I would rather walk so that's what I did..

I truly hope things will work out for her... PCOS is so hard to live with and we r here for her and YOU. sorry for the rambling, I just wanted to say, it can happen for you, she just needs to beat PCOS, and not let PCOS beat her. I beat it and I am the worst procrastinator, and VERY stubborn. Just for me it took losing Emma to get the ball rolling.