Well, we looked at other sites as well at what other AP's had written for the dbl and got good ideas of what needed to be said for ours, I broke it down into a basic letter. The 1st paragraph told the bm who we were and how we came to adoption. 2nd was about our life and how we met. 3rd/4th were view points on each other from the our perspective (I wrote about dh he wrote about me). Last paragraph was basically thanking her for reading it, and trying to be personable.
I wrote ours over a weekend and had it revised a number of times.
I know that you feel as though you have to sell yourselves. I felt that way too...but you have to be yourselves...the right bm will choose you. I promise.
If you need any help you can pm me.
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