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jeminijad · 01-05-2009, 08:33 PM

I'm a birth mother. I placed the son I had when I was barely 20 for adoption after his father announced that the Lord told him I wasn't the right woman for him. If anyone does not want to read a very candid description of why I picked who I picked, click off of my post. There are healthy, bright young women out there that make the decision that I made. I am thankful that some adoptive parents will take special needs children, but I am also cognizant of the fact that the boy I made has no strikes against him and wanted to preserve that by placing him with the right people.

I am intruding on your thread because I picked the family profile with the letter that:

A) had no typographical errors/poor usage (no bigger turnoff. They were going to be raising my child and carelessness during such an important step was unacceptable.)

B) Did not condescend to me; I'm an intelligent, articulate young woman who simply made a decision to put the boy I carried into a better environment than I could give him. I was probably overly touchy about this point, and others may be.

C) Was clearly indicative of a family that had their act together, fiscally. Whether they were actually financially well off was of course something I could not determine, but the entire reason I was placing the baby was that I couldn't pay for him to be decently dressed and schooled.

There may be birth mothers with very different priorities, but I did want to give someone a little insight into at least one woman's thought process. Best of luck to all of you seeking to adopt.