What are the issues you are seeing with your son? You say his is 'stingy' - is his issue sharing? Caring for others?
Maybe showing him how to help others. Have him pick some of his lesser-important things to give to needy children. Or get him involved in fund-raising for a good cause. Are there any needs within your foster-care agency that your family could help with (rainbow room donations for other foster families)?
Get him involved in organizations that can show him how to help others. Cub/Boy Scouts some to mind (we keep our son involved there).
Getting him involved in sports where he needs to work with others towards a common goal. If you just want him to push himself (instead of team sports) then running track, swimming or doing gymnastics would be options too.
These are just a few ideas. I understand spoiling, we've done that some here too - the sharing with others inside your own home is the hardest (especially when you've been an only child for a long while).
Susan
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Susan
PCOS dx 1996
Hypothyroid dx 2001
HELLP dx 2000, told me 2003
MTHFR dx 2004
4 early angels (12/97, 09/98, 02/99, 07/09)
BS-B-05/00 (9 wks early - pictured at 2 days)-HELLP (4th gr)
BD-S-04/03 (16 wks early)-HELLP-with us for one hour
BS-M-01/05 (22 wks early)-PPROM, possible IC-born still
AD-K-05/05 - placed 05/07, adopted 09/08
AS-B-06/06 - placed 04/07, adopted 06/08
Armour Thyroid 120 mg
Procardia XL 60mg
Glucophage 1500mg
Baby aspirin |