I applaud you for wanting the best for your son. But I have to wonder if he's getting the message that in order to "make up for" his rough start he needs/deserves "things" in order to move past it? Your love is enough and really no material possession can change what he has been through. I think the world today is filled with a lot of young people with this feeling of entitlement and it is robbing them of being capable, and compassionate.
I'm definitely guilty of wanting to shower my daughter with gifts too, but... recently I have just started to realize that things are really even remotely as important as the time we spend together.
I liked the idea Susan had to donate some of his things. Maybe to somebody that is fostering kids or a children's receiving home? I also agree with volunteering being a great way for kids to learn about compassion.
I think the main thing I'm learning as a parent is to not be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you are doing a great job with him!
Julia
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"To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children...to find the best in others; to give of one's self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived...THIS IS TO HAVE SUCCEEDED" Ralph Waldo Emerson
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