Hey, I just wanted to tell you from another perspective that my husband grew up almost literally dirt poor. Even now he is still scarred from it. It shows up in different ways. But his things are important to him and it took me a few years to help him realize that just because some gadget is out there does not mean we have to own it.
I just knew it was something he would have to learn on his own with me prodding him in the right direction. I watched him "waste" a lot of money when we were dating but I knew he would have to get it out of his system so he would not feel deprived.
Now he can look at something and admire it without buying it because he knows what we have works just fine. But it took about five years. My husband had never even been to a dentist when we met and had never had a birthday party thrown for him.
It is hard when we compare memories of our childhood and his stories involve being hungry and never getting anything new, or proper medical attention. But we have a lovely life now and he has learned for the most part that things are just things. I hope this other perspective helps you.
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