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Originally Posted by Bella Moochie  AnotherDreamer: You are right! I think I somewhat blame my body for "failing" me as far as the miscarriage goes. Then it REALLY pisses me off that my body is so whacked out that I cannot make heads or tails of what the heck it is doing! I guess I feel like blaming someone for my miscarriage and it is easier to blame my body. I don't know. Just like you said, I need to remember that my body has been through quite a bit. It really has. It's just hard when I know people who seem to be able to just sneeze and get pregnant without even wanting to. If one more person tells me "at least you know you can get pregnant", I am going to slap the crap out of them! I will be fine one minute and then in tears the next. I just want to get back to "normal" so my dh and I can start ttc again!
Thank you for being the voice of reason for me!  |
Ahh, I remember that too. I started snapping at people when they said things like that. Especially given our pre-existing fertiity issues. They can't understand it well. They just don't even know. And unfortunately often we have to educate them. And sadly, even though this is my second loss, I am still getting comments like that.
And, the blame... this is my second loss and I feel terribly guilty, like I failed
again. But, we have to remind ourselves that it really was out of our hands. We did the best we could, everything we were supposed to. It's hard, but we can get through this. It isn't our fault. (*hugs*)
I know how hard it is, especially right now while it's still fresh. Time will not heal the emotional wounds, but it will get easier. Physically you should be better in a matter of a month to two months, but every person has a different rate of healing.
The shifting hormones... remember that it's okay. You're greiving, plus your hormones are still out of synch from pregnancy. It's like being post partum really. It takes awhile to heal and come back from that. I think most people thought I was being irrational with the first loss, and it really angered me that they couldn't just understand that my baby was dead, my body was crap, and I was in physical pain. The whole situation was rough. Cry when you have to, don't bottle it up. Remember that it's okay to laugh when you want to. Let yourself feel whatever it wants. It will help, trust me.