Empathy

I know this - before I got married I lost 80lbs b/c I was alone and simply did not keep things in the house and did not allow myself to be in places with temptation. I kept my own workout schedule and I constructed my life around these priorities. After I got married, my husband admired I had done these things, but he was not interested in pursuing these things with me. I will tell you this much, the atmosphere in the home is very important. It's so difficult to face this knowing that not only is it hard to lose weight, it's even harder for people with PCOS. Being around others who expect us to do it but go on to eat what they want and not exercise themselves and bring things in the house that we need to stay away from sometimes is just too much. I think the best thing you can do is model the healthy lifestyle you'd like her to follow. I wish my husband sometimes initiated healthy eating and exercising instead of me being left to myself to carry it all. I feel like we're a unit and that means the health of one affects the other, and the efforts need to be mutual or they may be too hard to face alone. You want the right things for your wife, but what do YOU do? It's a lot easier to understand just how hard it is to initiate and maintain a certain behavior when you actually try to maintain it yourself.