Sorry to butt my female nose into things, but I say go ahead and lay out your thoughts/feelings. Maybe other men are a bit uncomfortable about sharing first. Or you may find women who have good enough communication with their men to be able to help. Or you may even find that "anonymous" women can answer your questions/concerns in a way that feels less confrontational or emotionally charged than it might be with your loved one. My advice: prepare yourself for the health issues, fertility issues and physical appearance issues. |