I read on here all the posts and feel the pain in the words of those who have suffered this tramatic loss. Makes my heart sad. There are a few things i wish someone had told me after my 1st loss..... Its ok to mourn
Its ok to take a little time for yourself away from others
Its ok to name your baby regardless if you knew the sex of that child or not..
Its ok to call it a baby-not a fetus or a product of conception
Its ok to be angry and work thru each day as it comes
Its ok to build some kind of a memorial for your loss wether it be a flower or a statue or anything that reminds you of your child
Its ok to celebrate the EDD of ur child every year and sing Happy Birthday
ITs ok to avoid pregnant women
ITs ok to not go to a baby shower u are invited to if you just cant handle it that day
ITs ok to cry until you have no more tears.....
These are just off the top of my head. From the moment the stick turned colors my baby was my baby...I dont want to forget nor do i feel i have to hide how i feel. I celebrate being able to carry my babies for any amount of time and i know that someday i will be reunited with them in heaven.. What a joyous day that will be.
