i've been married for 10 years and i'm miserable with my husband. for awhile i thought maybe it was the way i was feeling. i expressed to him how sick i felt and simply gave me a cop-out saying that i'm just lazy. at the time i was hypoglycemic and anemic but didn't know. during the same time i got pregnant and it only made the symptoms so much worse. i couldn't eat, i couldn't get out of the bed and had to stop going to school at the university. he argued about me not having sex with him, not cooking and not cleaning and it's good i didn't have the energy to even get mad at the time, i was too weak.
during my pregnancy i had gestational diabetes so i piled on the weight but couldn't keep any food down which worsened my anemia. so all this time i had to listen to him whine about his needs and this was in 1999. after i had my baby, my sex drive simply disappeared all together i didn't know why. i did have harsh feelings towards him but he wasn't done with me yet.
we started talking about marraige again and plans started to form but i was tired of shacking up with him especially after i had my baby. i told him i wanted to get married within a month but i wanted to go to the justice of the peace. i promised him his wedding for him and his family (who i really don't like) when i lost all the baby weight because i wanted to look good. he said no because HE wanted this and HIS FAMILY wanted this. i was like, well what about what i want? well, he wouldn't budge so i left to my mom's house around 2 and a half hours away....he let me leave.
i ended up going back around 3 weeks later so i was 8 months pregnant at the time. things didn't get any better. i remained hurt and bitter and now it's 2009 and i feel cold towards him and i don't know what to do. should i just let it go or what? he doesn't seem to understand me. heck, it doesn't seem he understands women.
we've talked about divorce, more now than ever but i've been a stay at home mom most of the time. if i did leave, i wouldn't be able to take care of myself and my 2 kids (14 and 10). i need help as far as my rights, etc. please, please, please someone tell me what i should do. i don't want to have sex with him anymore, we barely talk and it's not getting any better.
the last thing he said that really ticked me off was that he wanted me to give him the remainind of my income tax money to put down on a car which he will be using 99% of the time. BUT i need that money because he has no insurance on me or the kids whatsoever, never have. i've been using the money for my dr. appointments, meds and such. he told me i'm a grown woman and he shouldn't have to pay for my insurance but he does have it for himself and won't pay for me because he says it's too expensive. |