PCOS Message Board - View Single Post - Unmotivated wife

josieQ · 04-19-2009, 03:04 PM

Well since you are already taking the first step which is be "genuinely interested" the rest should come naturally, everyone get motivated by different things and ways.

My suggestion is that you attempt a few different approaches in motivating her I am sure you know your wife well enough to know what WILL NOT work and it will take time to find out what will work. But once you find out the right approach it will be worth it.

1-One approach would be let her think the changes are for you
Say things like

I think WE need to start eating healthy, I would like to learn how to cook healthy, lets take a class, I would love if you went for a walk with me after dinner every night, I want to learn more about PCOS will you help me)
2-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
You are looking great, you look like you lost weight, you’re a great cook (get her felling good about her self and once she is feeling better she might want to DO better)
3-She might need you to be there every step of the way
If she goes for a walk or starts eating healthy you need to do the exact same, and show your support.
4-Let her know your concerns about her health and you want her to live to be 100 yrs old and grow old with you.
5-express you self (let her know whats in your mind and that you want to support what ever choices she makes to FIGHT PCOS, ask her what she needs you to do ( then be prepared to do it)

If your wife is tired of hearing about PCOS don’t make it about that (when my bf tells me anything about PCOS I get frustrated, and then upset) but we still work out together eat healthy together and talk about my emotional frustrations and his concerns.

If you are motivated to get her motivated, you will find out what gets her going (just don’t get stuck tiring the same thing over and over or she will resent you for it)