First off, before you get daunted with the fees and everything else that can be overwhelming with adoption you need to consider that even with PCOS many women are successful when ttc. You can talk to your dr. and be put on met and clomid...I know for some that that can work...and others they have to go more invasive...IUI/IVF...It is what you are comfortable with in having a child.
When my dh saw all of the things that I was going to have to go through to figure out what we needed to do ttc he said that we were going to move onto adoption. That is where my heart was all of along...but dh wanted ttc...and so anyhow, when we were both finally on board for adoption we did the research and well...anyhow...yes, the fees are very expensive...I understand what you mean that you think you will never be able to afford it...but depending on what route you go through (international vs. domestic) the fees could be due in increments and that could help. You can also fundraise (there is a fundraising Yahoo group that they are a wealth of info)...trust me...ppl want to help and if you are willling to put forth the effort and work for it it will happen. There are loans and taking from 401k or taking a loan the 401k. It is all what you think that you need to do to bring your child home. (BTW, we fundraised/saved/toook from 401k/and a small loan).
Also do research on doing state adoption. I know alot of ppl on both sides that have had great experiences with state adoptions and others they had horrible experiences and have been scarred from it all together. If you were to do a state adoption it is all paid for by the state....so that could be the way to go...
Again it all starts with you doing research...and figuring out what ya'll comfortable with and going from there...
GL!
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