Originally Posted by sazzifrazz

I also would not recomend it. We are foster parents an the system approved us so quick our heads spun. We have had our special needs FS for 5 yrs. We decided to start the infant adoption process. Our homestudy was a mess!! They kept perseverating on DH;s childhood and the fact that his dadwas a child molester (never touched DH). In the end we were tired of gettingdicked around for 6 months so we really started putting pressure on them to get the homestudy finished. They ended up telling us a judge probably wouldn't grant us adoption due to dh' childhood. So we stopped the process...not that we really had a choice. I am so pissed off that we are good enough to foster a special needs older child without hardlyany supervision but the minute we want a healthy infant we are inferior. I would love to tell them to shove it and come find a better home for FS (who is NOT easy). I would never do that to FS, so we shut our mouths.

Now we are afraid to even try to do private adoption because we are afraid that the state will screw us again. Since we are foster parents im sure an agency would want a reference from the state. Dh;s childhoo recors should have been sealed (anything that happens in your childhood is sealed at age 18) but the state abused their power and opened the family file since it was easily accessable to them (filed in their own office). The way I see it they broke the law by opeing a sealed file without DH;s permission.