That 'friend' of yours....the one who is pretentious and all out whacked out of her mind for saying something like that to you that is so heartless and unthinking???
Dont give her a second thought! omg
As for losing your precious angel baby being Gods will...when my girls died that comment had me in tears, i needed God so bad during that time and all it did was make me feel more alone...i just had to rely on my beliefs and put others stupid comments out of my mind.
but i wanted to share a little dream my mom had when i lost my angels...
she called me and said she'd had a dream, that my two little girls aimee and dana were skirting in and out between Jesus' legs in heaven, untying his sandle laces and pulling at his robes, and Jesus, for all his patience...was a little flustered.
my mom and me were laughing and crying at the same time...i missed them so much but I could see my girls being total heavenly brats...just like they would have been if i had been able to keep them here with me. So is it Gods will that they were chosen to go back to heaven...yes, was it my will to keep them here with me? Yes...but i just had no control over anything.
I was so sad and heartbroken, and i miss them every single day, but the ability to smile with their memory and that feeling of being okay with things didnt come for a long long time...and i can smile about my angels now...you're not there yet, and thats so totally understandable.
The time will come when it gets easier to think of your angel and smile, but with people around you who say mean and hurtful things...it wont make the journey any easier.
Just hang in there angelmommie, let the anger flow and get it all out, SC is the place to be...
hugs...