Hi Claire,
First of all I am sorry about your loss, losing a loved one is a major trauma so do not be so hard on yourself at this difficult time.
I think most of us knows what it is like to be at the bottom, you know what you need to do to make yourself better ie the excerise and the food but somehow you can just not motivate yourself to get there.
I have been there myself, I think most of us have. The thing is as you prob know that once you are in a routine you feel so much better as a result. For now, just do what you can, walk or cycle as much as you can, get off the bus two stops early, get the stairs instead of the lift, maybe an excerise dvd at home, hit the dance floor if you go clubbing etc. Go for walks with your husband etc. Dont put any more pressure on yourself at this hard time, but be kind and patient with yourself. Support yourself like you would a friend, be as nice and patient with yourself as you would with your friend.
Also, drink 2l waters a day, take a good quality multivitamin, always eat breakfast, 5 fruit and veg a day and LOW GI whenever you can. These small changes alone will prob make you loose abit weight to make you feel better then you can up everything when you feel stronger and better inyourself.
Also sometimes it is nice to do something for motivation, buy a low gi cook book, fitness dvd etc. Just something small to lift your spirits |