Hi Amanda
I wouldn't tell your boss just yet. I did however mention to my manager that I would be attending a few medical appointments when the time came to attend these appointments. I did not go into detail on what these appointments were as I felt it had nothing to do with the manager. Depending on where you work some companies allow you to attend appointments in work time. Some companies ask you to make the time up.
When me and dh were going through ivf I mentioned the infertility to my manager. this was a year later. At first she was genuinely sympathetic and willing to give me the time off. the more appointments I attended the more arsey (mind my language) she would get with me. It got to a stage where I was completely stressed out and was willing to take time off as annual leave although I shouldn't have had to. However, one of the managers intervened and all was well. I would be very careful in mentioning the treatment just yet. Test the waters. Some managers up front would be more than willing but some can make life very difficult. It all depends on what type of relationship you have with your manager.
One advice I would give is not to mention anything to your work peers. In a matter of minutes the whole office could be talking about your infertility and it can be quite upsetting. I have only told a few of my colleagues whom I trust and so far none of them have said anything to anyone else. Good luck xx |