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Originally Posted by Slow-Motion 
His ex wife was "out to get him" and even had him fired from the highest paying job he had while with her... I don't feel that therapy will work with DH because he wont open up about ANY of his feelings, but I thought It would help THEM see how he is. But if DH doesn't like him from the start there is no hope for him to get comfortable enough to open up..
I notice that when DH and I are out in public he is "Mr. Cool Guy, laid back not saying much, just trying to not draw ANY attention to himself" but at home it the opposite. He is always scared that I'm going to hurt him, (if i get frustrated with something and throw my hands in the air like UGH, he will freak out..)
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Everyone from my ex's past was out to get him. His Dad's ex-wife was a fav of his to toss around. He even accused me of being related to his ex step mother's family and said that I was working with them to bring him down. Yeah, things were pretty bad at our house!
My DH was quiet and nice, respectful, etc, to everyone else. He even convinced our marriage counselor that I was just young and having a hard time adjusting to the marriage - instead of her seeing that he had a drinking problem, mental issues, etc. It was VERY frustrating for me. He never got help until it was too late. By the time I left I had been drained of all love for him, but then he got help, and it was too late for me. I still don't think they figured out how to treat him, though.
Hang in there for now, and try this new Psych. I hope you and your DH can get some answers. It definitely hinders things when he isn't able to open up about his feelings at all, maybe if you guys go together you can kind of help him do that? Have you had a chance to talk to the doctor one-on-one without your DH?