Originally Posted by Mr.NorthSouth

Have you had trouble with motivating yourself to beat PCOS? If so I need your advice...

My wife of 15 years has PCOS. I love her, and frankly I'm worried about her. She is gaining weight and her health is declining.

I look on in admiration to all the women who populate this board who are motivated to beat PCOS. It really bothers me that my wife isn't motivated to fight PCOS. She continues to eat too much, and the wrong things. She's depressed because of how she looks and feels. But when we've had discussions about it, they usually amount to her being hurt that I bring it up. She's extremely sensitive about it.

So, for 15 years I've largely said to myself, "Well, I can't do anything for her if she's not motivated herself". So I've done nothing. I've waited for her to get motivated to fight this thing.

And where has that gotten us? Fifteen years of declining health and denial.

I'm sick of ignoring this issue.

But I don't know what to do. I've told her that I love her for years. I tell her that she looks pretty, I tell her that she is sexy. That hasn't been enough. She needs real help, not just warm fuzzies. But in the past when I've tried to help hold her accountable to her attempts to get healthier, she resents me.

So my question to you ladies out there - how hard should I push? Is anything I do pointless if she's not motivated? Will she appreciate my involvement, or resent me for it? Must I consign myself to a life with a depressed, unhealthy woman who will probably die young just as her mother did? Do I risk being "resented" to try to really help her get healthy?

I told myself I wouldn't have a long post. Oh well. Any advice is greatly appreciated.