I just want to say, as everyone else already has....it's awesome that you choose to be so involved in her health. I haven't read through every post, just skimmed...so I hope I don't repeat anything anyone else has said.
#1 When you got married, you vowed for better or worse. Which means that none of us who are married can just walk out when times get tough. It also means that your wife vowed the same thing. She can't expect you to sit by and watch her live her life in this way and be ok with it.
#2 As far as her resenting you or not. My theory is this. I have an uncle...he is a drug addict and alcoholic. For years everyone in my family has tried to recommend counseling, but he refuses. In the past 3 years they have all given up. They have come to the conclusion that if he doesn't want to help himself then how are they supposed to help him. My thinking is..keep pushing, do whatever you have to do, because in the end, I love him very much and I want him to live a long healthy life...EVEN if it means without me because I've upset him.
I'm not saying push your wife so hard that she leaves or anything like that, but you love her, and that means that you CAN'T sit by and watch her whither away. It's not fair to her. When you guys got married you each agreed to be the other's rock. When you are down you need her to lift you up, and right now she is down, really down it sounds like and no matter what, no matter how many dirty looks she gives you, or cross words she says to you...in the long run she will see how much you love her and are trying to make her life better, because that's what she needs. Someone to push her and motivate her until she can motivate herself.
I really feel for you and my prayers will be with you and your wife in this hard time. I also pray that maybe a place will open soon that offer treatments for PCOS or some sort of relief for you and your wife. Keep up the good work and don't stop what you are doing. I pray that God will give you strength through all of this to continue pushing her, not to the point of breaking, but to the point of self help. Good luck!!!
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Mother of 2 furbabies, Ceasar 4 year old Dachshund
Bella, 10 month old Kitty
DXD August 5th, 2005
Current meds:
2000mg Met
81mg Aspirin
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