You sound like a wonderful, caring husband... You are doing the right thing by acting on your care. I have PCOS and my weight gain (primarily large protruding stomach) has really affected my marriage. I was thin and trim with a falt tummy prior to PCOS you see...
I suggest that you not push your wife to lose the weight or eat less. Encourage her, show her you care and want to work as a team so she can be happy and healthy in mind and body. It takes time for her to process these goals and even to accept them and be willing to try.
My story is that I used to eat like my belly was a bottomless pit. Ive wept so many times. This cause a mess in my marriage. My huby talked to me and encouraged me time after time after time to slow down with the eating, eat healthy, try to workout a little every week. Then it got more intense:only snack on healthy stuff, eat healthy food, no junk, work out at least 3 times a week, etc...
I had to decide myself to helo myself not just for my husband and our marriage but for myself too. I wanted to fit in my clothes, period. I wanted to be able to look at my stomach in the mirror. I wanted ppl to stop rubbing my belly cause I look quite visibly pregnant, etc.
For my 26th birthday, we decided to buy an elliptical exercise machine. I worked out like a dog, even 7 times a week, cut back a lot on my food intake. Conclusion: I lost 15 pounds, my confidence and self-esteem sky rocketed, I could fit back in my clothes, I only had a little bit of belly fat, our love making was more sexy, everything was 100 times better. Its like we had found me again.
I hope this posting can help you and your wife even in some small way.
All the best. |