Well, I always wanted kids so after I was married I knew basically for me it was the right time...lol...but for dh...that took over 2.5 years to get comfy with the thought of ttc and then adoption well, that took a little more time...but I think it was rushed b/c I was in the mode of where is our child going to come from and I had tunnel vision...we were called from a cousin about a possible situation and that really did jump start it all...through that we connected with another cyster that it didn't work out and then yet another one where the bm had actually chose us, but the agency was just so overwhelming wanting the whole fee then and we just couldn't move everything around...anyhow, we were ginally matched and successful at the end of May last year and our ds was born the 3rd of July...
O.k. I am going to say this and please don't think that this is going to sound mean or anything but my dh was happy and all that ds was here and in love with him but it took him a little while longer to get used to everything that changed...we had a huge talk when ds was 6 mos old...he told me that we would of adopted just not then...he told me that he thought that I was settling on anything...and he didn't understand my thinking...I would love my child I didn't care about the color or anything....but anyhow, then it finally clicked with him...ds is our child...it took another means for him to come here but he is here...and that is all that matters...and we are so loving being parents esp. to our little bundle of energy...
Anyhow, that's my story...but I am going to say this....you have to be on board...you both have to be on board...or it won't work...
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