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missyrooloo · 06-13-2009, 05:26 AM

I really want to let you know just how sorry I am to hear of your loss.
I lost my Mom at the age of 16, and gone through many other losses.
One thing I can say is there is no real "norm" each of us deal with loss in our very own personal private ways, but your anger irratibility sadness any emotion you feel is ok and you have every right to feel that way please know that. Grief is a process in which I dont think that one ever gets over, we just learn more of how to cope and go on and the day comes when you feel you can truly smile again and be happy.
As for family or friends (relationships) maybe sit your DH (and whole family at some point) down and tell him that for the time being you are not too sure how your moods are going to go and let him know this is one of those times in your life you really need him to hang in there and that if you blow up for what seems no reason it is likely the pain underneath and not him...Losing anyone especially a very close member in your family is hard, your DH may feel like he needs to make things better for you, but this is one of those things that you have to work through...grief you cannot side step...as hard as it maybe one has to go through it (a grief counselor told me that you cant go around it or else youll end up back at the beggining)..

Losing someone brings so many emotions form anger to sadness guilt irritability, ect....take time for yourself and do what you need to do to get yourself through this(time outs from stress, counseling/groups, whatever helps you and plain just cry when you feel like you need to)...don't ever feel like you should not feel any of the emotions you may be feeling or will feel, you will make it through hun. Take care of yourself, I will be keeping you in my prayers and thoughts *many hugs*