Hi Mara,
I'm so sorry for your loss and how let down and devastated you must feel. It is such an awful process on so many levels and you are right about how it feels cruel to still show signs of pregnancy when you know it isn't there. I have had 4 losses (I have 2 boys though) and one loss happened in my 13th week - right before a wedding I was to be in as a bridesmaid. i remember looking in the mirror at a slight bulge and being frustrated that it was there, when the baby wasn't!
Again, I'm so sorry. The pain will lessen, and time really does help, but for now as the emotions are raw, my best advice is to give yoursel permission to feel however you feel from one day to the next. The best friends I had were ones that said - you know what, this does suck! I didn't want any cherry coated pep talks in the beginning.
I wish you all the best and lots of comfort - big hug! |