I feel very fortunate to have a family who all understands and cares and that I haven't ever had to suffer from the hateful comments. When my sisters and I were growing up and we would be fighting I would occasionally get the fatass comment from her, but I know it was just because she was angry and she would apologize shortly after.
But I did have to suffer the hateful comments from my own doctor. It was about 3 years ago I went into to see a gyno because I was having some bad pains in my lower sides, (thought it might of been a large cyst, also this was my first time seeing the doctor) Well he walks in and says so how can I help you today, I jokingly said, just make me feel better. He said losing all that weight will make you feel better. It shocked me and I really didn't know what to say so I just kind of sat there. I can't remember all the exact words that were exchanged (this is not a memory i like to relive.) About 5 minutes later some more words had been exchanged and I was crying my eyes out. He never even asked me what brought me in to see him. My mother was with me took and she was just in shock. Even after he saw me crying so hard, he still CONTINUED with the comments about me being too fat and that was my only problem. I just couldn't believe what was happening I finally said screw you and got up and walked out. My mom came following me and asked me if we could just please let the nurse do an ultrasound because she was concerned with as much pain as I had been in, and I agreed because I wanted to know, but I said as long as it's just the nurse. She did the ultrasound and I calmed down some. Then the doctor came back in to confirm everything was fine and it was all just because I was fat. Those were the exact words. I ran out of the building and my mother stayed and went off. My mom wrote a letter telling of what all the doctor had said and done, a few months later "he left the clinic." |