I'm overweight (PCOS weight) and also recovered from an eating disorder ( i would eat less than 500 calories a day) and i had just started seeing someone, and after having sex that first time with him, we were laid in bed talking and i can't totally remember what i said, but it was something about feeling self concious, and his reply was ''Honestly, there is some flab but its not as bad as you think it is.'' then he rolled over, said goodnight and went to sleep.
i was so horrified that i waited until he was asleep, i got out of bed and i sat on the couch until i felt tired. i just felt so down about it. and i know that was kinda his way of being honest with me and complimenting me at the same time, but it was a kind of blow to hear it right after being intimate with him.
some people, mainly men lol, think what they say to you is honest and a compliment and they dont mean any harm by it, but it still hurts sometimes. |