It has helped me tremendously to have a partner who is in it with me. Someone who understands the struggle and gets out and does the excercise with me or who doesn't bring bad food into the house, even though he can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound. But it can be a very sensitive issue. My ex use to push me all the time, probably more than normal, and it just led to tears and feeling very bad about myself. I think that taking the approach of cooking healthy meals and just saying "hey, lets go for a walk.." kind of thing is nice. It makes the efforts without having to verbalize the issue and avoid the hurt. But I am a firm believer that we won't be successful unless we are motivated and want to change for ourselves and no one else. She has to want to make the changes on her own. |