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Stnredfox · 11-06-2007, 09:18 AM

Hi! Just signed up and not really sure, well about anything.
I am 26 just recently married to my wife, C and we have a 2yr old daughter.

I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was sixteen, My doc told me it was unlikely I would be able to naturally have a child then stuck me on the pill to regulate my cycle. And that was that. And even the pill didn't help my cycles were few and far between and i kept piling on weight, i have always been heavy but it got really bad on the pill, and it didn't help with the excess hair I have in lots of different places.

Anyway, in my ignorance, I decided it didn't matter and as a lesbian I wasn't gonna just get pg any way!! So i stopped taking the pill and moved away from my docs area. Lost a staggering amount of weight when i stopped the pill, but my periods disappeared, I thought it wasn't important.

Strangely, I met a man and had a relationship(first one with a man). I explained about missing cycles and it didn't matter bout kids so. But then I started to get horrific pains, i hadn't had a period for 2yrs! so it was kinda odd, went to docs they did all tests again and once again i was told to take the pills, but i didnt want to gain all that weight again it happens so fast!!

A few months later, I noticed a small lump in my stomach area so went again to Docs. Doc did blood work again told me I may have a large cyst, this was in may. I waited for a gyn app, In july went back to docs, feeling really bad at this point thyroid wasn't working properly, tired all the time. And the lump in my stomache was nearly double the size!!
Doc had afeel of my stomach and told me he thought i was pg (how did that happen?) i was convinced he was wrong. He was right, the thing was he had missed it for ages because i was already 22 weeks pg!!!! The relationship with the man broke down but i wasn't really bothered i think it had always been almost an experiment.

Now nearly three years later my wife and I have been ttc for eight months....with only one MC to show.....my doctor has changed and he is clearly concerned and has done more for me in the last couple of months than anyone else ever!!

But things aren't working as they should and I just don't know enough about anything because i always ignored it before (god i am stupid)! So had scans and now waiting for gyn app again.

Doc asked me how i felt about surgery then said he wanted a second opinion because I wanted to have a baby. I am not currently taking anything, as i need to have a full work up! but now i am confused and miserable, I can talk to my wife but i can see the sadness in her eyes and it kills me.

Does anyone know about the surgery and what it would include?
I try to wade through info on net but it's all over my head.

God sorry think that was a bit heavy?! lol

firefighters wife · 11-09-2007, 10:48 PM

What surgery r u talkin bout exactly? And have u been diagnosed with thyroid disease?

Amanda

Stnredfox · 11-12-2007, 05:31 AM

Hi ummm i don't know exactly what surgery the doctor was talking about, he just asked if i had thought about it as an option?! but then said as i was wanting another child he wanted a second opinion?! This in itself was confusing but as i was all jittery and nervous i didn't even ask a lot of questions. i just didn't know where to start.
Yes i do have a problem with my thyroid as well, but as before not much info was given.

Now all i do is think about it and worry, i don't even know what questions to ask when i see him again?! which is in a week....although i get the feeling he may not know much which is why i have to wait for gyn app.

because my docs in the past weren't really helpful it feels like this is something new and i just don't know where to start or what to think?!

firefighters wife · 11-12-2007, 03:02 PM

Well, the thing with ur thyroid is that it can also cause infertility. If ur thyroid is outta wack then it's gonna be that much harder to get pg. So u need to be reffered to an endocrinologist. They need to do a complete thiyroid block. And then get ur thyroid meds adjusted properly. I have really bad thyroid disease. Mine is called Graves disease. I didn't develop it til after I had my 2nd son. So my pregnancy with my daughter (last pregnancy), I had the thyroid disease. It was a constant struggle cuz we didn't think me thyroid would allow me to keep the baby. If u get pg and ur thyroid isn't under control then it can cause a spontanious abortion. So it's very important that u get that fixed first.

utgrrl82 · 11-12-2007, 05:38 PM

When you were pregnant with your baby.. other than your tummy growing.. did you have any other signs like sore boobs, nausia... anything like that?

Binxsmommy · 11-12-2007, 05:47 PM

I'm wondering if he's not talking about weightloss surgery? The way he asked almost seems taboo "the surgery". Not sure but many PCOS ladies have had it and were able to concive naturally and then of course there is the other side of the spectrum where many PCOS ladies are able to concieve w/o the WLS. Check out the TTC boards and find out what "surgery" he is talking about.

Stnredfox · 11-13-2007, 07:43 AM

Marcy to answer your question no there was no sickness, no tenderness, no signs at all that i was pregnant, just the lump in my stomach. I had also had various blood and hormone checks... and nothing showed up! I didn't even gain any weight until i was gone six months, it was all abit strange. i sometimes wonder if a differant doctor would have picked it up quicker but with no symptoms probably not......

Stephanie

Stnredfox · 11-13-2007, 07:51 AM

Thanks R will definately check out ttc pages and i am determined to keep it together to ask the right questions this time. I hadn't really thought he could mean WLS but he could. I find the whole thought of surgery extremely scary tho so i am hoping the second opinion has different ideas. At this point i am just hoping for some more answers.
Stephanie