I seperated from my husband about six weeks ago & I'm pretty sure he has someone else. I have a couple of questions about divorce, to know if I can file it now. Do have to have evidence that he has comitted adultery or is it enough for me to say that he has someone else. The second thing is do I need to know what her name is, I know what her first name is but not the surname & will she find out.
If anyone know of any good website on the subject I'd be would to have the address'
You can divorce your husband for adultery without knowing the name of the person ... as long as he signs the divorce papers in which you have stated "adultery" as your grounds for divorce. By signing the papers he is in effect admitting that he HAS committed adultery. No one needs to be named.
ALternatively you can divorce your husband on the basis of unreasonable behaviour ... that's a fairly subjective thing, there is no clear definition of what "unreasonable" means. It depends what is "unreasonable" to you. For instance it could be that he was mean with money, or didn't have sex often enough, or didn't spend enough time with you, or whatever.
Another grounds for divorce is 2 years separation. If neither of you is in a rush to re marry, you could just let 2 years go past, and then (provided you both agree) you can get divorced. If one of you doesn't want to divorce, you have to wait 5 years before you can force them to divorce.
You can get advice from a Citizens Advice Bureau, or make a "fixed rate" appointment with a solicitor who specialises in Family Law.
I'm sorry to hear this Stacy. I know you had hoped to work things out. I hope this is a new beginning for you though and you can concentrate on yourself for a while.
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We're all here to help. My bf just got his divorce through and helped him through the last year of it. Now all my friends going through the same thing are coming to me! I know the private lives of things I shouldnt!
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Thanks for that everyone, We both said that we wanted to get divorced as soon as we could, so I thought he'd love this option, I'm happy for him to file & say that I've comitted adultary anything to get this finished so I can move on. I just don't like the idea of waiting two years to beable to move on with my life.
I know we tried for a while but things just went back to how they were. Which wasn't good, I'm the happiest I've been in a long while. I've got my eyes set on another man at the moment, I know him from college & we chat online. The only thing is when I chat to him online, the way he goes on I'm sure he likes me, but not always so sure when we meet face to face. I have however asked him over to my new place just as friends & he's agreed. There are also a couple of other things that makes me think he likes me for example he's got a video of him at a party somewhere he wants me to see him dancing but he's said that he doesn't want anyone else knowing that I've seen it. The other thing is most of the songs we listen to when we are online all have the same message & some are quite obscure songs. So if anyone has advice on this topic I'd love to hear it.
You've already been given all the advice I could have managed (all true - as I know, having been divorced twice!!)
Just wanted to wish you all the best. Although divorce is not easy, when a marriage is not working and you've tried all you can, when you finally make the break it is like a weight off your shoulders. I had a party when my last decree absolute came through!! LOL!!
Good luck with the guy from college - sounds promising!!
Enjoy your new single life!
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There are also a couple of other things that makes me think he likes me for example he's got a video of him at a party somewhere he wants me to see him dancing but he's said that he doesn't want anyone else knowing that I've seen it. The other thing is most of the songs we listen to when we are online all have the same message & some are quite obscure songs. So if anyone has advice on this topic I'd love to hear it.
